This is C1's last week in our home. I was most worried about Mary in this situation but she is dealing with it very well. She has even expressed RELIEF.
He spit in her face last week, also when he had a cold that she was desperately trying to avoid. It's been a while since I've been spit at. Unfortunately, these became the bits of positive thinking with C1 - it's been a while since he's kicked me, spit at me, threw something at me, punched a wall, kicked a door. And I wonder why our patience faded a long time ago.
Needless to say, I'm glad that Mary feels the major de-stress of the house. For a while she seemed bitter like it was all my decision and I was a horrible person. Now, I think she truly agrees with me that our home would not be the best place for him. There's also a major sense of relief for both of us that we held on for an adoptive family and he's not going to be tossed around amongst foster families.
He's going to a good home with people that know his issues. Though I don't think you can truly know his issues by reading a file or even talking to us, you have to experience them. But they still seem prepared and are definitely more aware than we ever were. He's going to be their "baby", something I don't think he's ever gotten to truly be which I think a major part of his issues come from. We so desperately wanted to help this child and I think we did, we gave him a stable home for a year and in the end, we pushed for a home that was right for him.