So my prego sickness has been on and off. I call it prego sickness instead of morning sickness because it doesn't just occur in the morning. Random sickness might be a better term. Today, it was pretty much all day. And of course I had a million errands I planned on running. I had to get an oil change for Mary's car and then was going to get some things for the trip.
I get the oil change and then make the mistake of going to Dress Barn. What's with Dress Barn? I never really go in there, it's more my mom's type of store. But anyways, I drove by the other day and saw a really cute dress in the window. I thought, this could be a perfect way to end my Florida dress shopping. Nope, I went in to find the smallest size in the dress was a 16W. I'm assuming the W means wide? Like if you're a size 16 you're not wide? I don't know, it was annoying.
I found a skirt in a size 6 that I thought could be an option. Mary's mom stressed that the wedding was pretty casual so I thought a skirt might do. I'm not normally a 6 but in my bloated state I've definitely upped a size and it was elastic banned so I tried it on. Then the nausea hit me like a ton of bricks. I'm surprised I didn't throw up in the dressing room. Terrible.
I had also wanted to go in Old Navy that's in the same plaza. I don't think I've bought anything for myself from Old Navy in about a million years but they have really cute clothes for the boys. Anywho, I decided to suck up my nausea and head into O. Navy. Of course, it's Christmas time and the line was ridiculous with 2 cashiers working. I really thought I was going to faint in line. I also kept planning my fall into the doggy coats so I wouldn't hit the cement floor. LOL.
Oh well, I'm off to meet Mary and the boys. C1 is headed off to the respite house again and we're going to this horrible Maine restaurant beforehand. We decided to do this instead of McDonald's. I hate McDonald's but I almost wish we were going there because I wouldn't have to think about eating. Anywho, we didn't want to send him 2 weekends in a row but we leave on Wednesday for a week with the boys so we decided it was best and he really wanted to go. It will also probably be the last time he goes there in a while.
Friday, November 30, 2007
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Just another day
It's been a boring day and yucky day. It seems to rain so much lately. I've been mostly stuck in doing a data entry project for Mary. Oy. This is the most horrible one yet. I can't believe Mary is working her pregnant wife like a dog. ;-) Hahaha.. At least today I got to work from home and didn't have to go into the University's library like I did a few times this week.
I did get out for a diaper buying adventure. Oh, if only C1 would potty-train. While at the fabulous Target, I decided to invest in some cheap maternity shirts. It's not like I'm visibly prego to most people but it doesn't hurt to have some longer shirts. Afterall, if we don't tell people in Florida I'm prego, I don't want everyone to think I'm a heffer so I plan on wearing somewhat baggy clothing. I'm sure they won't notice either way, Mary's family like Mary is not very detail oriented.
On a random note, at what age should kids not bathe together? The boys take their bath together. It works out because we don't have to give 2 baths and it's one of the rare moments that they seem to enjoy together. C1, however, seems to be growing at an unusually quick rate where he's taking up most of the tub. And last week, we had, "kiss my penis". To which I flew in and said, "do not tell anyone to kiss your penis". Today, it was, "kiss my bum". I mean, they have no idea and it is kind of funny but also WEIRD.
I did get out for a diaper buying adventure. Oh, if only C1 would potty-train. While at the fabulous Target, I decided to invest in some cheap maternity shirts. It's not like I'm visibly prego to most people but it doesn't hurt to have some longer shirts. Afterall, if we don't tell people in Florida I'm prego, I don't want everyone to think I'm a heffer so I plan on wearing somewhat baggy clothing. I'm sure they won't notice either way, Mary's family like Mary is not very detail oriented.
On a random note, at what age should kids not bathe together? The boys take their bath together. It works out because we don't have to give 2 baths and it's one of the rare moments that they seem to enjoy together. C1, however, seems to be growing at an unusually quick rate where he's taking up most of the tub. And last week, we had, "kiss my penis". To which I flew in and said, "do not tell anyone to kiss your penis". Today, it was, "kiss my bum". I mean, they have no idea and it is kind of funny but also WEIRD.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
The GG Vent
So the drama with great-grandmother (GG) continues. Apparently, word got to her that we were thinking of only adopting one of the boys - and that would probably be C2. I'm not sure how this got to her since we really only mentioned it to the caseworker to make sure it wouldn't take them by surprise if that's what we decided in the end. It was also during a week when C1 was out of control.
We have stuck to our guns that we don't want to be involved in any decision to split the boys up. We feel in the long term, we won't be able to handle C1's issues and that the boys together are a force to be reckoned with. We are also worried that if they are placed again together, the same thing will happen and it will be a failed placement.
However, we've also mentioned that maybe more experienced parents would be able to handle them and that we really just want what is best for them. And this has been hard for us to come to the possibility that maybe they should be split up since our entire point of taking a sibling pair was to keep a sibling pair together.
Needless to say, now GG wants to make sure the boys stay together and if they don't, SHE wants to adopt C1. WHAT??!!!??? We were floored by this. She couldn't handle the kid for THREE MONTHS and she clearly does NOT like him. Plus, for lack of a better term the kid is pretty much f*ct psychologically due to abandonment issues. GG is OLD, OLD, OLD. Maybe she'll live until he's 10 years old and then what's going to happen. Her lawyer says then another family member can take him. Ummm, there has been no other willing or able family members that can take the boys, otherwise they'd both be with them now.
So Mary had called GG's lawyer to possibly have us facilitate some visits with GG when she found this out. Mary's worried the department will issue them and they'll be bad on the kids. She thinks if we could have a few goodbye visits here that would please GG and be less traumatizing for the kids. After all, open adoptions are illegal in Maine so it would just be setting them up for even more disappointment. Obviously, after hearing all this crap, Mary did not mention this possibility. Also, some of the comments GG makes, lead us to believe that she just doesn't want them with us..."it's a question of lifestyle...C1 needs a father figure...are they praying". That brings Mary and I to another huge dilemma where maybe we should just take ourselves out of the picture and maybe GG will get out of this crap.
I am just SO fed up with this situation. If I hear GG's name one more time, I think I'm going to be in a luney bin. Why can't someone terminate her rights? They were already taken out of her house because of weird stuff going on. I just don't get it.
We have stuck to our guns that we don't want to be involved in any decision to split the boys up. We feel in the long term, we won't be able to handle C1's issues and that the boys together are a force to be reckoned with. We are also worried that if they are placed again together, the same thing will happen and it will be a failed placement.
However, we've also mentioned that maybe more experienced parents would be able to handle them and that we really just want what is best for them. And this has been hard for us to come to the possibility that maybe they should be split up since our entire point of taking a sibling pair was to keep a sibling pair together.
Needless to say, now GG wants to make sure the boys stay together and if they don't, SHE wants to adopt C1. WHAT??!!!??? We were floored by this. She couldn't handle the kid for THREE MONTHS and she clearly does NOT like him. Plus, for lack of a better term the kid is pretty much f*ct psychologically due to abandonment issues. GG is OLD, OLD, OLD. Maybe she'll live until he's 10 years old and then what's going to happen. Her lawyer says then another family member can take him. Ummm, there has been no other willing or able family members that can take the boys, otherwise they'd both be with them now.
So Mary had called GG's lawyer to possibly have us facilitate some visits with GG when she found this out. Mary's worried the department will issue them and they'll be bad on the kids. She thinks if we could have a few goodbye visits here that would please GG and be less traumatizing for the kids. After all, open adoptions are illegal in Maine so it would just be setting them up for even more disappointment. Obviously, after hearing all this crap, Mary did not mention this possibility. Also, some of the comments GG makes, lead us to believe that she just doesn't want them with us..."it's a question of lifestyle...C1 needs a father figure...are they praying". That brings Mary and I to another huge dilemma where maybe we should just take ourselves out of the picture and maybe GG will get out of this crap.
I am just SO fed up with this situation. If I hear GG's name one more time, I think I'm going to be in a luney bin. Why can't someone terminate her rights? They were already taken out of her house because of weird stuff going on. I just don't get it.
Being Prego
I think my cravings have begun. I have wanted Chinese food for the past few days. I neeeeeeed crab rangoons and I'm making it my goal to get them ASAP. Everyone needs goals, right? ;-) Otherwise, I seem to go from eating a lot to being disgusted by food. And usually when I want food it has to be EXACTLY what I want. I am not usually this picky.
It's one week until our Florida trip. I am looking forward to getting into some decent weather and I have SO much to do. I need to buy some clothes for both me and the boys. I feel like a bloated beast in all my current clothes and the boys need some "fancy" clothes. Mary wanted to dress them the same as her sister's boys for the wedding pictures. Her sister hasn't gotten back to her but she still wants to do this.
This is just weird and so un-Mary like which leaves me confused and annoyed because I've had to wait to shop. I told her I was getting them at the end of this week no matter what. She wants us to get our clothes for the wedding while we're in Florida. I finally agreed since there isn't crap up here for us but I don't want to HAVE to do any more shopping than that. It's already going to be difficult because we'll need to find someone to watch the boys while we shop.
We have also debated telling Mary's family I'm pregnant while we're down there. As of now, only a handful of people IRL know I'm prego. Only two friends that were following my fertility madness and my mom. I probably wouldn't have told my mom but last time she was up, I told her about the clomid and the sperm arrived while she was in town.
I kind of feel we should wait until post first trimester to tell most people. Mary thinks we never see her family so it would be nice to tell them in person. We both agree we shouldn't tell until after the wedding since it's Jill's time and we don't want the congratulations on us. So I guess we'll see if there's a good time after the wedding to tell or not. :-)
It's one week until our Florida trip. I am looking forward to getting into some decent weather and I have SO much to do. I need to buy some clothes for both me and the boys. I feel like a bloated beast in all my current clothes and the boys need some "fancy" clothes. Mary wanted to dress them the same as her sister's boys for the wedding pictures. Her sister hasn't gotten back to her but she still wants to do this.
This is just weird and so un-Mary like which leaves me confused and annoyed because I've had to wait to shop. I told her I was getting them at the end of this week no matter what. She wants us to get our clothes for the wedding while we're in Florida. I finally agreed since there isn't crap up here for us but I don't want to HAVE to do any more shopping than that. It's already going to be difficult because we'll need to find someone to watch the boys while we shop.
We have also debated telling Mary's family I'm pregnant while we're down there. As of now, only a handful of people IRL know I'm prego. Only two friends that were following my fertility madness and my mom. I probably wouldn't have told my mom but last time she was up, I told her about the clomid and the sperm arrived while she was in town.
I kind of feel we should wait until post first trimester to tell most people. Mary thinks we never see her family so it would be nice to tell them in person. We both agree we shouldn't tell until after the wedding since it's Jill's time and we don't want the congratulations on us. So I guess we'll see if there's a good time after the wedding to tell or not. :-)
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Termination of Parental Rights
TPR - just like that. The mother finally decided at the last minute to voluntarily sign away her rights. Luckily, I didn't go because there was no trial. Now, they will think about doing a goodbye visit which I think is absolutely insane. Hopefully we have back-up from the therapist to not do this or that she's able to facilitate this by being there. And no fathers attended, they'll have to hunt them down to sign off too.
Of course, we thought everything would be over. But, no, we have the most crazy case out there. They decided to hear the great-grandmother's case at a different time. Now, that isn't until the end of January. So ridiculous that they let this stuff go on so long. No adoption decision can be made until that crap is done with. It makes me sick to see how selfish some adults can be. Really, these people are looking out for themselves and not the kids and them having a permanent situation ASAP is what's best for them.
Oh well, at least TPR finally happened. I feel somewhat bad for the mother, but only to a limited extent. Afterall, she hasn't parented the boys in years. I would've had more respect for her if she gave up a long time ago instead of continuing to show up to visits high and set them up for disappointment.
Of course, we thought everything would be over. But, no, we have the most crazy case out there. They decided to hear the great-grandmother's case at a different time. Now, that isn't until the end of January. So ridiculous that they let this stuff go on so long. No adoption decision can be made until that crap is done with. It makes me sick to see how selfish some adults can be. Really, these people are looking out for themselves and not the kids and them having a permanent situation ASAP is what's best for them.
Oh well, at least TPR finally happened. I feel somewhat bad for the mother, but only to a limited extent. Afterall, she hasn't parented the boys in years. I would've had more respect for her if she gave up a long time ago instead of continuing to show up to visits high and set them up for disappointment.
Saved by the Sick Kid
Mary is on her way to court and I am not. C1 woke up sick this morning; coughing and complaining about his ears. He usually eats a big breakfast but this morning would hardly eat so we knew he was really sick. The kid tends to be a hypochondriac so we don't always believe him when he complains about ailments.
Since court is today, we had to get the o.k. for me not to go since C1 can't go to preschool sick and we don't have any day time babysitters. I do feel bad that Mary has to go alone but she's all into court since she's obsessed with being all Law & Order like. And she practically does public speaking for a living so she's the better one to talk.
I also would've liked to go to see what happened first hand and if any of the dads make an appearance I will be bummed to not get a look. Hopefully Mary takes notes so we can discuss the drama later.
As for MY bio kid, I finally have my midwife apptmt in one week. I seriously feel like I've been in the longest wait of my life. Hopefully the midwife can set Mary straight that pregnant women are TIRED. I feel like Mary doesn't think my fatigue is for real. I seriously feel like I could sleep all day and night and still be tired. Taken, I'm EXTREMELY grateful to finally be pregnant I do hope this tired stuff doesn't last the entire 9 months.
Since court is today, we had to get the o.k. for me not to go since C1 can't go to preschool sick and we don't have any day time babysitters. I do feel bad that Mary has to go alone but she's all into court since she's obsessed with being all Law & Order like. And she practically does public speaking for a living so she's the better one to talk.
I also would've liked to go to see what happened first hand and if any of the dads make an appearance I will be bummed to not get a look. Hopefully Mary takes notes so we can discuss the drama later.
As for MY bio kid, I finally have my midwife apptmt in one week. I seriously feel like I've been in the longest wait of my life. Hopefully the midwife can set Mary straight that pregnant women are TIRED. I feel like Mary doesn't think my fatigue is for real. I seriously feel like I could sleep all day and night and still be tired. Taken, I'm EXTREMELY grateful to finally be pregnant I do hope this tired stuff doesn't last the entire 9 months.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Just Call Me Whiney Whinerton
This week is crazy. Today, I've been at Mary's work all day doing data entry in the library. Oy, the library is annoying. And aren't people supposed to be quiet? There is some media lab right near where I'm sitting and people are always talking. I also have been sneezing all day and have a terrible headache. I need to get some tylenol since I can't take advil. And I'm FREEZING and tired and VERY whiney. Can you tell?
Anywho, we are supposed to go to court tomorrow for the TPR case. As usual, the process is completely ridiculous. We were subpoenaed for Monday. Yes, today. Then we were told the judge will make the schedule on Monday and it will probably be for Tuesday. We had called to talk to the caseworker about something totally unrelated when we found this out. Umm, what about everyone else that's subpoenaed? I know, the kids' therapist was definitely pissed because she didn't know what day to cancel her clients.
I am not looking forward to going to court. Last time I went to one of the hearings, I was so uncomfortable and now this time I'm actually going to have to talk. I do NOT do public speaking. Hopefully I don't have a full fledged panic attack when they call me.
I also have an interview on Wednesday morning. I had applied to some jobs pre pregnancy. Now, I'm hesitant to even go to the interview. What if they actually hire me? In a few months I'll be noticably pregnant. So crazy. I wish the temp agency would call with a job, I'd just rather do random temp jobs until I have the baby.
It was also a major process for us all to get out of the house and get the dogs settled this morning. If I get a job, I don't know how I'm going to get to work on time. Speaking of dogs, what do people do with their dogs when they're not home? We had this dillema when I was working before. Neither dog is a dog that can go all day without having an accident or tearing something up.
Anywho, we are supposed to go to court tomorrow for the TPR case. As usual, the process is completely ridiculous. We were subpoenaed for Monday. Yes, today. Then we were told the judge will make the schedule on Monday and it will probably be for Tuesday. We had called to talk to the caseworker about something totally unrelated when we found this out. Umm, what about everyone else that's subpoenaed? I know, the kids' therapist was definitely pissed because she didn't know what day to cancel her clients.
I am not looking forward to going to court. Last time I went to one of the hearings, I was so uncomfortable and now this time I'm actually going to have to talk. I do NOT do public speaking. Hopefully I don't have a full fledged panic attack when they call me.
I also have an interview on Wednesday morning. I had applied to some jobs pre pregnancy. Now, I'm hesitant to even go to the interview. What if they actually hire me? In a few months I'll be noticably pregnant. So crazy. I wish the temp agency would call with a job, I'd just rather do random temp jobs until I have the baby.
It was also a major process for us all to get out of the house and get the dogs settled this morning. If I get a job, I don't know how I'm going to get to work on time. Speaking of dogs, what do people do with their dogs when they're not home? We had this dillema when I was working before. Neither dog is a dog that can go all day without having an accident or tearing something up.
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